On My Mind: Emotion

Having this switch would be nice….

Lately I have been overwrought with feelings of inadequacy, insecurity, jealousy, anger, frustration, defeat, discouragement, envy, skepticism, uneasiness, and sadness (to name a few). I recognize that most of these emotions that are filling my heart and mind are due to my own insecurities, territorial nature, being overly self-critical, having unrealistic expectations, dissatisfaction with work, and other unfavorable situations/facts. I understand that these emotions are not all the byproduct of others and that it is my own frame of mind getting in the way of my happiness. Now don’t misunderstand, I am mostly content with my life…. there are just some emotions that repeatedly keep creeping into my thoughts.

Definitions of Emotion:

  1. A natural instinctive state of mind deriving from one’s circumstances, mood, or relationships with others
  2. Instinctive or intuitive feeling as distinguished from reasoning or knowledge
  3. Any of the particular feelings that characterize such a state of mind, such as joy, anger, love, hate, horror, etc

Quotes on Emotion:

  • “There are moments in life, when the heart is so full of emotion That if by chance it be shaken, or into its depths like a pebble Drops some careless word, it overflows, and its secret, Spilt on the ground like water, can never be gathered together.” Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
  • “It is important not to suppress your feelings altogether when you are depressed. It is equally important to avoid terrible arguments or expressions of outrage. You should steer clear of emotionally damaging behavior. People forgive, but it is best not to stir things up to the point at which forgiveness is required. When you are depressed, you need the love of other people, and yet depression fosters actions that destroy that love. Depressed people often stick pins into their own life rafts. The conscious mind can intervene. One is not helpless.” Andrew Solomon
  • “Any emotion, if it is sincere, is involuntary.” Mark Twain
  • “Human behavior flows from three main sources: desire, emotion, and knowledge.” Plato
  • “Sex is emotion in motion.” Mae West
  • “Whatever we plant in our subconscious mind and nourish with repetition and emotion will one day become a reality.” Earl Nightingale
  • “When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but creatures of emotion.” Dale Carnegie
  • “I don’t want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them.” Oscar Wilde
  • “Your emotions are the slaves to your thoughts, and you are the slave to your emotions.” Elizabeth Gilbert
  • “One thing you can’t hide – is when you’re crippled inside.” John Lennon
  • “Emotions, in my experience, aren’t covered by single words. I don’t believe in ‘sadness,’ ‘joy,’ or ‘regret.’ Maybe the best proof that the language is patriarchal is that it oversimplifies feeling. I’d like to have at my disposal complicated hybrid emotions, Germanic train-car constructions like, say, ‘the happiness that attends disaster.’ Or: ‘the disappointment of sleeping with one’s fantasy.’ I’d like to show how ‘intimations of mortality brought on by aging family members’ connects with ‘the hatred of mirrors that begins in middle age.’ I’d like to have a word for ‘the sadness inspired by failing restaurants’ as well as for ‘the excitement of getting a room with a minibar.’ I’ve never had the right words to describe my life, and now that I’ve entered my story, I need them more than ever.” Jeffrey Eugenides
  • “The world is a tragedy to those who feel, but a comedy to those who think.” Horace Walpole
  • “One ought to hold on to one’s heart; for if one lets it go, one soon loses control of the head too.” Friedrich Nietzsche
  • “Feelings are not supposed to be logical. Dangerous is the man who has rationalized his emotions.” David Borenstein
  • “The emotions aren’t always immediately subject to reason, but they are always immediately subject to action.” William James
  • “The degree of one’s emotions varies inversely with one’s knowledge of the facts.” Bertrand Russell

2 comments

  1. Calista says:

    I really love this. Emotions are something that we experience constantly but rarely seem to ever stop and actually think about. What am I feeling? Why am I feeling that? Is there a pattern to what I am feeling? Do I feel it at certain times/situations, etc. I used to ask those questions because I thought that any “negative” emotion was “bad” and if I could track it down and analyze it then I wouldn’t have to feel it anymore. I could turn that frown into a smile and the world would be sunshine and lollypops every second of every day. That was exhausting.

    Now my emotions have leveled out considerably. I no longer am CONSTANTLY experiencing super high highs and super low lows. It’s nice. And then every now and then when I feel an intense emotion really deeply I don’t think of it as a bad thing. For example, the other day I realized that someone close to me is probably going to die pretty soon and I was heartbroken. I remembered the last person that I was close to who died and suddenly, without warning, I was sobbing and asking all those life questions that everyone seems to ask at one point or another.

    I realized during the experience that I didn’t feel bad about feeling the emotion “sad” … that all I felt was pure unadulterated sadness. No guilt, no shame, no horror, or anything else that used to accompany feelings that I thought I was never supposed to feel. At that point I realized that it almost felt good to feel the emotion “sad” which may sound weird but it was almost like I was feeling it and experiencing it and was oddly comforted by it.

    *shrug* just saying, emotions are really interesting and sometimes, if we don’t analyze them to death, it can be really neat experiencing them.

  2. Kira says:

    I’m so sorry Brooke. I can relate to this post, and I would wish no one that. I also 100% agree with Calista. In fact I had a similar experience. I use to be super emotional ALL the time. I too, began to dig deep inside myself and question why I was feeling the things I was experiencing. I realized that while the thoughts were having a negative outcome (how I felt about myself and the world) there was a rhyme and reason for those thoughts and even actions and once I understood that.. I was able to grasp the reality of who I was, and why I did things or why I perceived things the way I did. Perception is huge. Two people can see things the same thing, and but have different experiences. Like when I see you, I only see good things. I only see the Intellectual Brooke who could win me in any debate, the flexible boss, pretty hair, and so on so forth. I don’t know what you see, but I hope you see the good things I do. Its okay to be hard on yourself. Thats how we improve, but there comes a point that we have know that we have worth too that we are good enough. Just the way we are. Sometimes its hard to recognise the good in ourselves, but I think sometimes that takes practice. I don’t know if this will help you or not, but if I ever caught myself getting down. I correct myself. For instance. If in my head I were to Think “Gosh I didn’t vacumm today, I’m so dang lazy” Then I would continue/correct with “but thats okay, because I worked 8 hours today, and I deserve a break. ” In a way, Like Calista said.. Its almost good because you learn things. You learn to channel the necessary emotions, and the unnecessary ones, because as Calista so beautifully described.. Feeling sadness for the loss of a loved one is something that is not only normal, but acceptable. If we didn’t feel pain, we wouldn’t feel happiness.

    Also, Id strongly suggest watching a documentary called “This emotional life”. Understanding is half the battle. The other half is using your knowledge!

    Hope that helps. Good luck…

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